Adventures in Decorating: The great refresh of 2013

It all started out innocently enough, we needed a new bed because our mattress was older than my daughter ish  and I decided we would keep waiting until other things were taken care of before dropping 2000+ on a new one. But then, a friend had one for sale, a great one, cheap and very gently used. So I bought it. I knew it was going to kick off an entire domino effect, I just had no idea how far reaching that one little purchase would become.  So one day during Thanksgiving Break while my BIL was here, I had him and Babu

  1. Take my son’s old nasty bought used for MiniMe mattress to the basement
  2. Move MiniMe’s newer twin mattress to his Race car bed
  3. Move MiniMe’s twin bed to the basement
  4. Move the queen frame from the basement, set it up and move our mattress and box springs to her room
  5. Move the new mattress into our bed


No wait, this meant her room had to be redone into a bigger girl room, between Thanksgiving and Christmas, on top of the Holiday Decorating, shopping entertaining etc…

  1. A newly acquired on the FB Marketplace french desk, chalk painted, distressed
  2. A new set of memo boards made big enough to go on her walls, thanks Pinterest
  3. A semi custom set of shelves and bench for her wall
  4. Moving her dresser into her closet


No wait, after I took down the Christmas Decor I wanted to move the couch to the other side of the room, which caused the black buffet to get moved to beside the fireplace.

Which looked AMAZING.

But…totally screwed up my accessories, because now the couch was sitting on a big, blank, wall and the metal piece was all off placed.

Then came  Valentines Day.. I made roughly 1000 home made  valentines and approximately 47 gajillion batches of fudge, some heart shaped.

Then came Easter and the invasion of the Bunnies…..

I was clearly trying to occupy my mind, myself, and my time during the fighting for my marriage by keeping my mouth shut, going into super internal processing/change mode,  and not throwing my husband out like I wanted to roughly every 1-7 days when I reached the, OMG this is hopeless or OMG I’m going to have to call  Momma M and have her dig me a hole on the compound for his beaten to death body. I couldn’t run because I had plantar fasciitis. Strength training and sending my friends out of nowhere really long cussing tirades so I wouldn’t SAY them to  Babu became my only outlets.   The weeks wore on, and on, and on.  I read books, I journaled, couples therapy began to actually work inside my marriage, the  man began to actually baby step toward something I considered, considerable… as in I’ll consider letting you stay here. Things became less painful, I became stronger, more educated, more understanding, more patient, more capable of managing myself, him and what we were going through. Right before Easter I read an article talking about surrounding yourself with things you loved in your home. Every room should feel right, not just look right.  I’m pretty sure it showed up in my  Taptu or FB news feed.  I read it, thought yeah that makes sense I already have lots of things I love in my home, and went on with my day.  Later I read another article talking about photo walls, putting large groupings together vs. more groupings that are smaller.  A few days/weeks who knows later I  started pulling Easter down and it hit me…

Everywhere I looked things were the same as they were 3+ years ago when  we had round 1 of almost divorce.   He moved out and took some things with him, he moved back in and I put them all right back where they were before he left. At the time it made perfect sense, restoring everything to its pre-PJ days, making it whole again, all nice and tidy just like it was before.  Three years and 1.5 crisis later as I looked around amidst gathering bunnies, it all just felt stagnant.  Everywhere I turned and looked felt like bad JuJu.

It was time for a full on refresh.  When I was younger and I’d break up with a guy, or get dumped by one, I’d spend the  Saturday after I picked myself up from the trauma completely cleaning my apartment from head to toe and completely re-arranging as much as I could.    Back then it took all of 4-8 hours.  Apartments are small, furniture was not that movable and accessories while plentiful were easy to “redo”.   This time, I also had the excuse of the blank wall behind the couch. It was making me anxious, an empty space needing to be filled. I don’t like undone projects, in spite of having more than my share of them.  I don’t like unfinished business, in spite of learning to live with so many instances of exactly that.   So I kept taking things down from walls, from table tops, moving tables and other small furniture into  big piles. I needed as much of a clean slate as possible.  Then I proceeded to spend the next 6+ weeks living life, working and pulling off a refresh.  There is no way the pictures could convey the true nature of the work involved in making a few simple changes. Ha! When have I ever done anything simply, it just doesn’t seem to be my style, but I’m learning to embrace it more.  I wanted to add  more black and white. I wanted more natural elements. I had to play and tweak and replay and re-tweak until everything felt just right.   I had to not only redo the pictures but wash and clean every piece of glass in the frames.  I had to have the staircase, The Destroyer  and the guest bath painted.  Here are the pictures of the journey and the fruits of my, and the painters, labor. The trim guy comes in the next 10 days to finish the downstairs with chair rail and dado squares.  The pergola is getting built over the back patio before mid- June, weather permitting.  I think I’ll try to tackle things in smaller chunks from now on.  Lord am I tired.




The Garden in Spring 2013

Apparently I started the rip apart and redo trend last fall when it was bulb planting time. All of the Iris came out of the ground and haven’t made it back in yet. This led to digging up every bulb in the retaining beds and a complete redo.

I bought some new bulbs for the back beds and my Mom ( for those of you not in the know, my Dad remarried when I was 3) came over and helped me go through the piles and piles of bulbs on the patio and replant them.  In the process she made me promise to pull up the back tulips after they bloomed and throw them away.  So tomorrow before we go over there for Mother’s  Day, I’m going to listen and follow directions, the gift every  Mother dreams of, and dig up the tulip bulbs and take them to her as a silly gift. In spite of the ripping apart, re-doing , and really cold weird Spring we’ve had the garden didn’t look too awful shabby.  The front beds looked quite nice actually, which means they will be kaput and ready for new bulbs as well next year. Tulips only last about 2-3 years in Indiana, I don’t know why really but I think it’s the clay soggy soil, it just rots them eventually.    Plus I get to buy new tulip bulbs for the fall, so it’s cool.  Here are the pics of what did bloom. Happy Spring!!

Pink Power

I puttered in the Garden this morning. I set my chipmunks must go trap.  I pulled dill and cilantro, sprayed the veggie garden for diseases and noticed the many shades of pink my Zinnias are producing. The teeny tiny white one with the barely noticeable pink stripes is the  Zahara Starlight Rose  finally blooming. I also have teeny tiny ENVY blooms in the lightest of lime green.

Sunflowers so far July 2012

Happy Tuesday Lovies, enjoy some sunflowers!

Saturday in the garden

It was an amazing nice sunny fall day here on Saturday. So I did a little work outside and took some pics of the back gardens.  The grass could use a mow and some rain.

We got a whopping 4 little pumpkins this year before the vines did this sort of slow fungus filled death thing.

Peppers have started coming in, I hope I can keep them warm enough long enough.

Harvest one of tomatoes is over,  several batches of sauce were mad e, including one with so much garlic it is actually SPICY hot.   The 2nd harvest is brewing.  There were about 6 horn worms this year, four the wasps killed with their eggs so that was VERY nice.  One I let the kids keep as a”pet” (mwahahahah), and this little guy I’m going to let stay since it is late in the year anyway.

The Big headed sunflowers are dropping and filling with seeds

The red rose bush is got its fall bloom going on.

The blackberry lilies have gone to seed

two grasshoppers were enjoying the nice sunny weather.

If I remember I will get around to the front and sides for some pics tomorrow.