This is the Truth: Stay Strong



This is the truth:  You know who you are, what you stand for, where your heart and intents lie. Don’t allow anyone else to define you for you or convince you  something opposed to the truth you know inside yourself. So what if they can’t, don’t, won’t see it. Stop wasting time trying to make them see something they couldn’t comprehend to begin with, YOU know it’s there and that Lovies, is all that matters. Put it out there as best you know how and screw the haters, they are everywhere and they WANT  to derail you so they can feel better about their own evil, pitiful, shameful, pathetic, ugly selves.  Give them empathy  and a knowing smile of understanding because we all have moments of hate, evil, ugliness, and shame.  Some just choose to live and wallow there versus working their asses off to find a better way to love themselves or learning to throw up their arms and shout  “Let it go!”    Stay strong, proud and smiling.  You are worth it, you can do it and you are strong! Don’t let anyone strip it from you or give it away to the haters.

Happy Friday! ❤



This is the truth: Soul Mates


This is the truth, or so it seems I was saying less eloquently the other day. Babu and I have been working through some pretty profound communication issues. I suppose 15 years later is never too late when you have the the rest of your life to figure it out. Relationships are hard Lovies, it really does take work and being truly you in your communication of your needs. I’ve always wanted a partner who sharpened me and I thought I had one once. I am absolutely certain I will have one again.

Fearlessly be yourself; life, love, and God / the universe will take you where you are meant to go. Try not to miss the journey, it lives in the moment to moment.


This is the truth: Fear is a liar

That uncomfortable feeling inside you; the one holding you back, censoring you, degrading your confidence.  It’s a liar, it doesn’t know any better. AWOL nation said it best, Never let your fear decide your fateFace and conquer your fear.


This is the truth: Hold your head high

Oh Lovies, so many of you are battling so much right now. I wish I could make it happen faster for you, this awful wonderful journey you are on, but you have to go at your own pace. I’ve been there and I will never forget how much it sucked at the time. Some days I wondered where I’d get the motivation to keep moving forward without breaking. So here’s some, there will always be people out there who want to see you fail so they can feel better about themselves. Raise your head up gorgeous and go show them who the head bitch is, it’s you!


This is the truth: The battle for yourself is the most important!

Sometimes is takes a little more than the big girl panties.

Sometimes is takes a little more than the big girl panties.

This is the truth:  There will be times in your life when just the Big Girl Panties ( Big Boy Boxers) aren’t going to cut it.

Some battles are too important. Any battle for YOURSELF, is the MOST important.

Find those Sparkly BGP,  as Righteous Momma described them the other day, and learn to love  and fearlessly be you!

Happy Monday Lovies!


PS- I just HAD to….