Almost Divorce- Part 6 GWP; First a note about trolls and creepers.Posted: 2011/08/04
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A note about trolls and creepers
GW is the internet, therefore the cesspool of humanity is more on display here than say your local Target. And it is also the sexy side of the internet, which ratchets the cesspool and creepy potential up way up. BUT…This is Reddit not 4CHAN or Chatroulette or whatever else so this takes the class level up a few more notches. There are many intelligent people here and more than a few absolute idiots. The good news is the idiots are somewhat avoidable and ignorable and don’t usually last long. Kind of like real life except on the internet you can momentarily escape them, tho new ones will always come.
Super idiots are the trolls. There are trolls everywhere on the internet , including Reddit. Dudes ( or maybe girls, but I doubt it often) saying very rude, negative or inflammatory things that are either really mean or make no sense. This is not to be confused with trolling somebody or say a chat room, for fun. Trolling is more pretending to troll to give shit to a friend. Or pretending to troll to be a dick in one room while another room knows what is really going on. Basically all the ways that exist to be a mild to a giant asshole to your friends or total strangers using your voice, eyes and ears in real life also exist online.
True trolls are the sociopaths of the internet. They are fucking with you only for the enjoyment it brings them. The more upset, outraged, emotional you become, the more they enjoy it. They should not be fed or watered in any way. Simply ignore them, period. To give them any attention is only going to give them joy. DO NOT FEED THE TROLLS.
Creepers are people who are only voyeurs, not exhibitionists. They don’t go on cam, ever. And they don’t want anyone knowing who they are or what they do. Some people see the lurkers in chat as creepers. My opinion is that all creepers are lurkers, but not all lurkers are creepy. However, on the creepy scale lurkers are the most creepy chat visitors. Simply because they could be anyone there for any nefarious reason. This is not to be confused with creeping, actual admitted and or pretend for fun being a lurker/creeper in a room. I’ll explain this whole thing later when we talk about chat. It’s slightly more complicated than trolling because trolling is usually in good fun, and creeping can be well, actually creepy.
Like PJ telling me he had a creeper name and had talked to be without me knowing it was him using it….and then never told me what it was or what we talked about. Unless he was referring to the day we met, where he fapped on cam under an alias and then told me right after it was him. Which I think I asked about and he told me no it was another different name. Which makes him more than a little creepy given the hind sight. Well that and the multiple jokes he made to me about pits and chloroform while playing the PJ is pretending to be creepy game. YES, there were multiple jokes made by him about pits and chloroform. And even one conversation where I flat out tell him he would not be able to kill me even if he did put me in his pit because he adores me too much, that conversation came very late in the game. Oh and by the way did I mention he owns a hand gun and a permit to carry it and goes to the shooting range for practice. What you ask? No I did not feel safe for many many nights after he vanished. I mostly felt horribly violated and exceedingly shocked and sad. CREEPY!!!!!!! If you find yourself still compelled to go online and find a swell gal or guy like this one for your own don’t say I didn’t warn you that they are out there. And some of them are pretty!!
And now onto Part 6 GWP
In the middle of AJ, I start to form sort of an online stable of GW (blanket term to describe all online stuff during this time) guys. This does not speak to the % of guys who hit on me that I either ignore for no particular reason or reply with a simple and genuine “Thank you I’m flattered sweet boy”. Or the % of guys who hit on me who I feel are too young. I’m not saying I wasn’t flattered by their attention. I like men, younger men with Greek god like bodies it’s noted, but not little boys.
As I’m working on phasing AJ out of the stable and into the GW friend zone, something wonderful and horrible happens. I get an orangered that I’ve been invited to a members only gonewild subreddit, GWP (not its real subreddit name). It’s a more civilized space. Instead of the 2-10k at the time on r/gonewild (it’s up to like 50k now) that might be looking at your bits it was a MUCH smaller more intimate group. It was like being invited to the cooler kids club. In GWP there are hardly ever trolls. They are not invited or kicked quickly. Pics here are often of bodies and faces often there are couples pics. This is more like sharing yourself with your peers and there is lots of room for actual conversations. Lurkers and creepers are more OK here because they made it to the room in the first place.
The first thing I do is check the place out to see who is posting and commenting. I recognize a couple of user names but not many. None of the guys I play with are in here, so it’s kind of a secret hide-out for me as well. It just feels safer to me, and I love that feeling of a safe place to hide inside this online world. It’s not really a secret, but its not publicized either. It is no different than any large community that forms sub groups of like minded people. Do you invite all the people you run into at the Starbucks every morning out to dinner and drinks with you? No you invite those whose company you enjoy.
And they have a password protected private CHAT ROOM!!!!! So when I say GWP I’m thinking both the Reddit and the chat, they are basically combined in my mind. The subreddit acts like a kind of ante room to chat. A place for pics and also conversation posts. Topics for the group to consider, results of the nipple photo identification contest etc.. I met more than a few people I’d be proud to call friend and a handful that I already do. GWP was my respite from all the chaos and drama of managing the rest of my GW online life. In my online world this is where my online besties, both girls and boys dwelled. I preferred not having any of my pets in GWP, but this wasn’t always the case. Someone else invited PJ and I was not happy when I logged in one day to see his adorable face in the GWP room, obviously I got over it. I preferred to keep my stress free room stress free, and all the public drama in public. But there were other GW couples in GWP besides us so I adapted. If anything this bonded us “together” online more. GWP is pretty awesome and mostly devoid of drama. Humans are still involved so there is some to be found or made if you are into that sort of thing. I am not into drama but that doesn’t mean I didn’t get ensnared in some.
This time period is fuzzy for me. Everything sort of happened pretty quickly all at once over the course of a few short weeks. It seemed like I had just put a pic on Reddit for the first time and then the next thing I knew I was in two subreddits, managing being social or sexy in up to two chat rooms, and managing email and pics and chatting and camming. And I may or may not be in lurker mode as well. Sometimes I was doing almost all of this in one space of time. Or thinking about it while while say cooking dinner, or at work or putting the kids to bed. I can’t remember if I was one-on-one camming before I went to chat or if going to chat and getting on cam bore one-on-one camming. I didn’t start this process with a web cam and a sexy t-shirt all ready to go. We were just going to post some pics on GW remember.
Actually one-on-one camming I first cammed with JJ with, not AJ. As I recall logistics were difficult for AJ to be able to be on a cam. Not that it stopped us mind you. Men and women with a single purpose are not often derailed by obstacles. I had been emailing and g-chatting with both of them plus others, and JJ was my first one-on-one cam session. I also can’t remember if I had been to public chat before I got invited to GWP. I think I got the cam for use with JJ, used it also with AJ and around that same time got invited to GWP, who had private chat, which then led me to find out about public chat. There are people who could help me work these details out, but I am not going there.
Even though I wasn’t usually allowed to play when hubby was home I could still go onto Reddit and chat in the evenings and weekends while we were in the home office. He would be playing video games or also surfing the internet. Once I started going into chat he’d be sitting in the office at his desk right next to me, often in partial view on cam. I was moving deeper into an online world that was eating up more of my real life time.
More to come next Thursday